"Happy Birthday!" is something that we say a lot at CSC. We work hard to make each birthday a special occassion for each of our kids. Really, all our kids have of their own is their name and their birthday, most other things have been taken from them.
We have the big event on the exact date of their birthday....even if that means we have three different birthday parties in one week. The kids know exactly what to expect. They like to wear red on their birthday. Their birthday will be celebrated in their house, all the staff are invited and each of the kids get to invite two more people...usually one kid from each of the other two houses, but sometimes they invite their teachers from school. If we happen to have two birthdays on one day that just means the party doubles, we usually have it outside because all the kids from two houses are included. Most often the first thing that happens is the kids are presented with a printed copy of all the greetings that were posted on FaceBook for their Birthday - they especially love looking at each of the tiny FaceBook profile photos! They do read the notes as well. We always have a rousing (read LOUD) birthday song and lots of table banging (trust me - it goes with the song). Following that we all have to tell the birthday child "HAPPY BIRTHDAY" and expect a "Thankyou" in return. Then is time for a special prayer for the birthday child, the child gets to chose a staff person to pray for them. We are always certain to thank God for bringing this child to CSC and for each of the talents that we know this child has. Then...time to eat. The kids love to have chicken and spaghetti! Sometimes the menu varies (and that makes the staff happy.) After everyone has eaten all they want (and that usually does not include vegetables when they get to fill their own plates) it is time for Ice Cream and Birthday Cake, but first they have to have their picture taken with their specially ordered birthday cake. The birthday child is usually the first one done eating. The last big event of the evening is getting their gift! They are so excited to get their birthday gift...CSC kids are appreciative and happy with what they receive. It is a blessing to watch their face as each thing is pulled out of their bags...okay, clothes usually get tossed aside rather quickly, but they are happy to wear them the next day! Then it is time to pack everything back in the birthday bag and bring it upstairs to their bedrooms to find special places to keep each thing (usually that will be in their bed with them for a few nights at least). Yep, we love birthdays at CSC. Each and every one of them.
Helping our Brothers
Over the weekend, I made a phone call at 4 a.m. Cebu time/2 p.m. Minnesota time to a bike shop in Roseville, Minnesota. When the connection went through, right away I heard lots of people talking and laughing and the hum of bike trainers in the background. A bunch of people with various connections to CSC were at a Habitat for Humanity event called Ride For Cebu (http://habitathomescebu.wordpress.com/) to raise money for the purpose of helping CSC workers get better housing.
The phone was passed around so I could talk to some of the riders. I talked to a couple of employees of CSC, an adopted CSC child, two supporters of CSC, an adoptive parent and an employee of the bike shop. There were a lot of other people there whom I did not speak with.
The verses in I John 3:16-18 say, "This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers. If anyone has material possessions and sees his brother in need but has no pity on him, how can the love of God be in him? Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth."
All of the people who showed up at the bike shop care about CSC. They were there living out God's love through their actions by participating in the trainer ride. Tears came to my eyes as I sat in my apartment half way around the world in Cebu in the middle of the night.
Silent Night, Holy Night
Last night I worked late in my office. When I came down the outside stairs I was struck by the silence. Even the moon was hiding behind clouds. I didn’t hear dogs barking, roosters crowing or goats bleating. I didn’t hear music drifting across the neighborhood. Most of all I didn’t hear any sounds that are normal for having 80 plus kids on one compound. It was a Silent night. I decided to go into the homes to see just how far this silence could be pushed. I expected to see and hear at least a few babies awake to be fed or changed. But, in each of our three nurseries it was silent, all the babies and toddlers were asleep! The Aunties were busy preparing bottles that would soon be demanded and arranging clothes that would soon be needed. It struck me that it was not only a silent night, but it was a Holy night. Seeing these precious babies that have come to CSC for life and for a future, seeing them sleeping in a safe place and being confident that their needs will be met; it struck me that I was in a Holy place. A place where God was working, Silent and Holy.
Here is a bit of what I saw...
Smiling!
It's obvious that CSC cares for kids' physical needs, but lately I've been thinking about what an important role CSC plays in their emotional development as well. The caring aunties, house parents, staff, and teachers help the kids here build trusting relationships.
Sometimes newer kids are very shy and hesitant. For example, up until yesterday, this little boy would get big wide eyes, reach out for an auntie, or cry whenever I walked into the room. I felt horrible for making him so nervous.
But yesterday, HE SMILED at me! And I caught it on camera! The aunties and house parents are so loving to these kids and it's so cool to see even the babies "coming out of their shell" as they start to feel more safe and comfortable here. :)
Who's most important?
Last night I got to the shelter in time to chat with the kids before prayers and bed time. For some reason, one group of girls had all kinds of questions about what employees fit where and who's "in charge" of whom. I began to wonder if I needed to get the org chart out. We seem to be raising a lot of management consultants right now (or a group of experts at delaying bedtime).
I wasn't sure what to think about the questions and was hesitant to answer. The hierarchy didn't seem all that important, and I wondered why they would care.
But then, why wouldn't they? This is their home, and I suspect behind all of this is an underlying question that goes something like, "we can trust all of you, right?" They want to know who will take care of them, who will sacrifice for them and who will always be there. I think I could go through that org chart and check every name off when it comes to meeting those criteria. I'd put this team up against any other, anywhere.
Eventually the questions turned into who was more important and that's where I stopped them. You might know how easy that was to answer. "You are, girls. You are the reason all of us are here, you are the reason our jobs matter, you are the ones who make this important."
That answer had the advantage of being true...and getting them to go to bed.
Adoption Consciousness Week 2013
For the second straight year, CSC participated in Adoption Consciousness Week in Cebu City. The celebration is aimed at increasing knowledge and interest in local adoption. CSC children joined the motorcade and a special program that featured musical numbers from local child caring institutions, a video that highlighted their programs and services, and some brief talks by officials of the Department of Social Welfare and Development. Our own Mae Ann and Margie emceed the program and did a great job.